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Seven Reasons Not to Create

There are lots of reasons why you shouldn’t create something, but only one good reason why you should. What are your reasons? What is your answer to the ultimate question regarding your creation?

I know a lot of artists and writers who struggle with motivation, allowing all their fears to hold them back from starting on something they are passionate to create. I’ve been one of them. The biggest problem I see for people is that they allow their inner critic to run the show. They editorialize before they even have something concrete for the inner editor to respond to.

There are lots of reasons people generally have for not making something. These are the top seven I usually hear.

  • It’s been done.
  • I don’t know how to start.
  • The project is too big for me.
  • There’s no market for it.
  • I can’t make a living at it.
  • I might not succeed.
  • I might realize I don’t like it.

My counterarguments:

  • Everything may have been done, but no one has done it like you would do it.
  • Something may be a huge project, but the only step that you should focus on is the next step.
  • There’s never a market for anything until someone makes it.
  • You can always make a living at something while you are doing what you love.
  • Not trying at all is a perfect way not to succeed. Besides, success is relative. Most “successful” people have “failed” more than they have “succeeded”.
  • You are completely, 100% free to change your mind about anything. And if you go into something without commitment fears, you are much more likely to see all of the things you love about it (or be able to be honest with yourself about what isn’t working).

Ultimately, there is only one thing you need to ask yourself when you are considering making something.

Do you really care about it? Do you really want to do it? Does it satisfy a yearning in your soul to pursue it?

That’s it. If the answer is yes, get started, do the first thing, and then the second thing, and then the third. You will probably realize as you do it that you have a new way to do it, that starting is actually quite simple, that it isn’t as big as you thought, that you just hadn’t met your market, and you have all the money you need for where you are at right now with your creation. If you are having fun, your parameters for success will be much different, and you will be well set up to succeed admirably.

You don’t need any justification, clarification, or explanation other than, “Yes, I want to do this.” That’s it. You have absolute freedom of choice in your own life, and all that the world needs from you is to be true to yourself.

Start with the premise that life is your ally, and that your only job is to show up and be yourself. Get out of your own way and you’ll be amazed what comes out of you, and what shows up to come to your aid. For goodness sake, have fun!

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5 Tips for Well-Intentioned Success

There are five things you can do to make sure the parameters you set for success are the most fulfilling, most positive, and most attracting for your big (or small) project. Keeping these things in mind throughout all phases of the project will ensure that you get only the best out of your endeavor.

Intentional Success: Tip #1

Define your parameters for success… before you even start preparations. Creating intention is a powerful thing, and it can set the tone for everything on the project, long before you have officially begun. Set the tone for what you want, and you’ll be amazed at what shows up to help you along the way. This also allows you to positively frame any setbacks that appear. You decide what is important and what you can let go.

Set the tone for success from the beginning, and things will line up to support you.

Intentional Success: Tip #2

Hone in on your core intentions and reframe any that come from a place of fear. Are your intentions really positive, go-get-em-tiger aspirations, or are they framed in anticipation of failure? If you think, “God, I couldn’t possibly bear to fall short of X,” then you know you are onto a potentially destructive intention that is all about fear rather than faith. Can you get to the bottom of why X would feel like a failure? If it touches on any hot button topics for you, journal it out or talk to a friend. Change how you think about it until the potential realization of that failure starts to look like a door to a new success.

Stressful projects are made to bring up new things for you to deal with… So try to deal with those negative assumptions ahead of time so they are less likely to make a surprise visit, at the time you want it least! And most of all, be gentle with yourself if they do come up. Breathe and reframe the failure until you can see why it is actually an opening to learning something new.

Artists know about the “happy accident,” where a mistake becomes a brilliant discovery. Leave room for those accidents to become acts of genius!

Intentional Success: Tip #3

Prioritize your intentions so you know what to aim for first. What is the most important intention for you on your project? When you keep this in mind, it helps to focus your thoughts about success more keenly. You may think you want to win a contest or blow away the competition… But maybe you really want to enjoy yourself or make new connections. Sure, maybe there is an edge of competition to what you are trying to achieve, but if you know you really want to put fun first, for instance, you can remind yourself to approach it in a spirit of playful contest. Don’t let others define your intentions for you, either, or you may end up losing motivation right when things are getting heated, when you realize you leapt on board for someone else’s measures of success.

Your primary intention of success will line up all the rest of your intentions, and will give a clear direction for your energy.

Intentional Success: Tip #4

When it’s done… sleep!… then review your successes. You may have to take a break and get some rest after you are done with your Big Thing, because a tired mind is not always the most kind. When you get a bit of downtime (which I hope you have built into your plan!), write in your journal, take some time to meditate, or take yourself on a walk or out to breakfast.

Compare your achievements to your intended goals. Did something go off the rails? Did you reach too high? Or did you go in knowing that it was tough and you were satisfied to have tried? Maybe you framed everything in such a way that you feel like the whole thing was a huge success! Take stock of everything and file it away.

Remember… setting high goals can be invigorating, with the right attitude. And if you feel disappointment about something after the project is done, try to reframe your analysis. You probably achieved things you hadn’t even accounted for and received gifts that you never would have imagined on your own. And if you did your work from the start and set positive intentions, the chances of those things being very easy to find will be extremely high.

Most people wrap up a project by thinking about what they should do differently next time. Just make sure you give ample time to acknowledge the good… without equivocation.

Intentional Success: Tip #5

Tell everyone how awesome you are. Okay, so you don’t spend all the livelong day boring friends and families with tales of your supreme wonderfulness, but definitely toot your horn about what you achieved! You worked hard and you earned it.

Sharing your success with others teaches them to embrace their own success, and it helps you build on your own feelings of esteem for the Next Big Thing.